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date: 2026-03-11T23:00:22-06:00
description: "My reflection on the Netflix show Love is Blind, it strips people of their humanity."
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title: "Love Is Blind Causes Blindness"
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My wife and I used to watch Love is Blind pretty consistently. Years ago. Perhaps seasons 2-4.

Every now and again we dip our toes in. A family member watches and wants to have a tea talk.

Well, the season 10 final episode, the reunion, aired tonight. I came away feeling so empty.

## The Villain is in Each of Us

There was one man (I almost said character, yeesh) who was collectively identified as the season's villain.

He made an emotional connection, got engaged, and on leaving the pods, seemingly turned on his fiance. Apparently, he was not physically attracted to her. Had weird conversations and speaking poorly of her behind her back. Made advances on another girl who was currently engaged to another guy in the show. There were lots of other details that highlighted his flawed state.

Well, the final episode airs. They give about a year's time after the actual season was recorded. The people from that season come back together to hash out details, get some last words in, and catch all of us up on our para-social relationships' statuses. It's all very strange, but totally normal and mainstream seemingly.

Anyway, so many people wanted to call this guy out for his actions.

My wife commented "I wonder how much they have to pay him to show up to this beat down."

I'd be curious to know behind the scenes what motivated him to show up. Honestly, it might have been to apologize, because that's basically all he did.

I respected him for that. And I quickly pitied him.

I think there is something really compelling to a villain that is humanized. Good villains deserve their punishment. Great villains are understandable and reprehensible at the same time.

I was so disappointed for the people in the room, those that claim so much to focus on emotional connections and emotional intelligence, cannot see that he needs emotional support.

It seemed to me that he struggled with some insecurities. I thought that he showed he could not communicate clearly his feelings.

And to this the mob of emotional intellects want to watch him squirm. I felt compassion for this guy. Sure, he crushed this girl's heart. I'm by no means saying getting his apology was bad. But I think the collective has caused immense damage to a man that may not ever heal, just so we, the completely removed from the situation viewers, can have some sense of justice?

I was equal parts filled with compassion and disgust. I almost can't believe this is what now constitutes entertainment.

## Patterns of Blindness

The patterns of communication that bothered me but I may not exactly know why:

- Women frequently saying to their male connection they did not marry "I know there is a good guy in there"
- The male host kept saying "man to man" when trying to catch some of the guys out, like being honest and a man of your word is just a guy thing? I guess all women don't keep their word? Or like, you aren't a "man" if you lie, you are a boy?
- I would absolutely consider myself a feminist (if this seems weird to hear from a guy, I encourage you to look up the definition), but there was a lot of man hate energy. It felt uncomfortable. Not as a man feeling targeted, I think more as giving women a bad look? idk. that might not be quite it...
- I felt like so many of the women that were single were working on themselves, which was met with applause. The guys were kind of laughed at for just being around lol sad
- I think it was clear to see in the majority of cases the women had much more emotional maturity and intelligence than the men. Women could articulate well their perspective, identify problems better, etc. The men often missed getting the memo. This bothers me. I wish men would step up and take responsibility to learn communication skills.

All in all, I think I'm filled up on Love is Blind. It was fun and interesting in the beginning. Watching couples genuinely try to grow in love together gave my marriage relationship something to learn from and contrast with. I think we found it helpful and cathartic. Now, I don't know what this Frankenstein has become.

Also, the end of the show culminated in an ad from Turbo Tax. They gifted a couple a honeymoon trip. Insane product placement. It kind of blew my mind, felt like a Truman Show level ad. I felt like no one saw the Turbo Tax part, they just heard free trip.

In summation:

There was no love, only blindness.
